ANTI-MAGNETIC ARCHETYPE #2
THE PROTESTER
"I REFUSE TO DO WHAT ANYONE ELSE DOES"
Convinced that the only way to succeed is by working longer and harder than anyone else, you use sheer willpower to override your intuition, physical limits, and natural timing. Whether building strategies based on 'shoulds,' working to the point of burnout, or setting stress-inducing deadlines, you struggle to trust that rest and natural rhythms won't derail your success.
...it's likely The PROTESTER has a lot of "pull" right now, and is costing in more ways than you may realise.
→ Crushed under the pressure of all of your commitments, but can't seem to say no
→ Regularly setting deadlines that require you to break your back
→ Prioritizing work - "doing" - over wellbeing - "being" - most of the time
→ Including things in your strategy that you hate but feel you have to do to succeed
→ Crushed under the pressure of all of your commitments, but struggle to say no
→ Regularly setting deadlines that require you to break your back
→ Prioritizing work - "doing" - over wellbeing - "being" - most of the time
→ Including things in your strategy that you hate but feel you have to do to succeed
IF You'RE:
Signs The PROTESTER is running the show
MIRROR, MIRROR ON THE WALL
A life spent locked in a battle with life itself (and likely, yourself). There can be a general feeling like life is just meant to be a struggle for you. From feeling like you're a lone wolf and will never have the support that deep down you crave... to always waiting for things to go wrong because you know that right when things are feeling good is when the other shoe is going to drop. This is a life that is harder than it needs to be. Because you're approaching it like a battle rather than a dance.
Feeling like life is nothing but a struggle
THE COST TO YOUR BEING
The biggest risk is that you never accept the call to leadership because you avoid committing to being a part of a team, convinced that you don't belong or will only be rejected or turned into a villain. Sounds extreme, but this is a pattern that was created very early in life, all to protect your big heart from being hurt again. But that big heart is exactly what will make you a great leader. This also applies through the lens of community and even things like business partnerships. By isolating yourself, you miss out on being supported too!
Never accepting your role as leader at all
THE COST TO YOUR LEADERSHIP
This can most commonly look like being different just for the sake of being different, which is for your own benefit rather than your audience's. You might be so determined to not come across like anyone else (you'd rather eat sand than be mistaken for someone cookie cutter), you completely neglect the part of your strategy that considers who you want to reach and what THEY need to hear/see/feel. So you stay invisible and develop an even bigger chip on your shoulder because you feel like no one values you.
Being invisible to the people who need you
THE COST TO YOUR BRAND
You could end up wasting a lot of energy by being so determined to do things differently, that you don't actually honour your own needs OR the timeless fundamentals essential to business. So you still end up with an approach to business that's misaligned and/or not effective, which eventually needs tearing down and building again. You'll also be wasting precious creative energy reinventing the wheel rather than pouring it into genuine innovation.
Wasting energy re-inventing the wheel
THE COST TO YOUR BUSINESS
(NOT SO)
THE HIDDEN COSTS OF OPERATING FROM THIS ARCHETYPE
NOW FOR THE GOOD NEWS
THE PROTESTER'S MAGNETIC POTENTIAL
The Protester's patterns are simply the unhealthy expression of the natural strengths you were born with. And once we become conscious of them, they can be transformed into a higher expression that puts an end to the "self-sabotage" (in quotations because this is actually just a form of self-protection) and becomes a part of your toolkit for success.
THE GIFTS HIDING IN THE SHADOW OF THE PROTESTER
Where others are terrified to be different, scared to put a foot wrong, or tempted to tone down their message in case it makes too much of a splash, you are bold, courageous and unapologetic. So while it's easy to fall into the trap of rebelling for the sake of rebelling, when you're able to remember why you're doing this in the first place, and to not need to prove anything to anyone... you're going to tap into the kind of magnetism most people dream about. So know that you're already one-of-kind, and your mission - should you choose to accept it - is trusting that as long as you lead with your heart, you'll naturally tap into that pioneering, creative, change-making energy you've been wanting to embody. So no need to try so hard!
SACRED GIFT
SOVEREIGNTY
RESOLVE
STRENGTH
DEFIANCE
SHADOW
YOUR ALCHEMICAL MAP
We fall into the shadow when we're operating from fear and doubt, but it's just the other side of the coin to the strength, which we already have within us. The real magic though? It's in accessing the sacred gift, which we earn with time and through alchemising these shadow patterns.
The outward expression of all you are, this is what most think of as personal branding, as it's about how you choose to position and package yourself in the outside world, from what you wear to how your website is designed.
Harder to measure, but easy for others to sense, this is your energy, your vitality, that spark people feel when you walk into a room (or the dark cloud, depending on your mood). This energy gets poured into all of our interactions AND our creations, so it's essential to your magnetism.
How you're showing up in the world. The actions you're taking (or not) the habits you've adopted (whether they're helpful or not) and the way you express yourself. Our actions can change our reality including how we feel, so it's next in line.
Your belief systems and the stories you hold about everything -- from yourself and your own potential, to other people, to how the world works. Our thoughts manifest as reality, so until our beliefs align with our desires, we'll struggle.
Your literal foundations: who you are, how you were built, the state of your nervous system, and the way you naturally see and experience the world. If we don't understand these things or let them get out of whack, everything else falls apart!
FROM PROTESTER TO Rebel with a Cause
Magnetism isn't some switch you flick on. It's created from 5 different sources that are all essential parts of you. And since one impacts the next, you can think of this as your "Magnetic Hierarchy of Needs". I'll quickly explain what they are before diving into tailored recommendations for each of these areas specific to The Protester.
To heal the pattern of The PROTESTER and step into its highest expression as The C Rebel with a Cause, we must work from the Inside Out.
CROSSING THE THRESHOLD
YOUR MAGNETIC MAKEUP
YOUR MAGNETIC MYTHOLOGY
YOUR MAGNETIC M.O.
YOUR MATERIAL MAGNETISM
YOUR MAGNETIC MOXIE
SO NOW YOU KNOW THE LINGO, LET'S TALK ABOUT WHAT IT TAKES TO GO FROM PROTESTER MODE TO Rebel with a Cause ENERGY!
Magnetic Makeup
While this is a process that requires patience, you can start by opening up to new relationships and visualising a future where you're supported by people who love and understand you. Is there someone in your life right now you could reach out to and connect with?
LAYER ONE:
Magnetic Mythology
Some mantras to play with: "I design my life around what matters to me, not based on what others are doing." "It's who I am not what I do that makes me completely unique." "I don't need to prove I'm different - I'm designed that way."
LAYER TWO:
Magnetic M.O.
So forget about trying to swim upstream and instead, look for ways to express yourself with every action you take, and to approach things in a way that brings you joy.
Even if it's something you're doing behind the scenes, it'll infuse your energy into your work, making it unmistakably yours even if to you it seems vanilla or "mundane".
LAYER THREE:
Magnetic Moxie
When we lose sight of it, our egos can take over and get us distracted from the real point, therefore making it all about us.
But when we connect to our heart for service, we remember that what we're doing is for others, and that helps us get out of our own way and share from the right place, not caring how our work is perceived and only caring about whether it's able to help the people we serve.
LAYER FOUR:
Material Magnetism
What you need to spend time with is your own blueprint. Whether it's with the help of Human Design, astrology, the Enneagram, The Gene Keys or some other system, the more you simply lean into your design, the more your onlyness factor will emerge.
And then you can create a brand identity that's the outward expression of your spirit. Which is what makes your magnetism undeniable.
LAYER FIVE:
Build Up Your Baseline
Shift Your Story
Align Your Action
Elevate Your Energy
Bridge Your Brilliance
YOUR PERSONAL ROADMAP
While this magnetic hierarchy of needs is universal, what's required to break you out of your own patterns and activate your highest potential is unique. Tap on the orange arrows to view your personal magnetism prescription.
MAGNETIC MAKEUP
One of the most important - yet challenging - things for The Protester is to start creating safety in relationship, which often involves confronting childhood wounding around abandonment, rejection or "otherness" that taught you it was safer to become a lone wolf than to open up to others. While this is a process that requires patience, you can start by opening up to new relationships and visualising a future where you're supported by people who love and understand you. Is there someone in your life right now you could reach out to and connect with?
BUILD UP YOUR BASELINE
MAGNETIC MYTHOLOGY
To heal the need to be different for the sake of it and instead be different because of who you naturally are, you'll need to get clear on your values (what you care about) and virtues (how you're committed to operating) so that your internal compass becomes clear and is able to operate from a place of love rather than fear. Some mantras to play with: "I design my life around what matters to me, not based on what others are doing." "It's who I am not what I do that makes me completely unique." "I don't need to prove I'm different - I'm designed that way."
SHIFT YOUR STORY
MAGNETIC M.O.
Remember it's not WHAT you do that makes you unique, it's HOW you do it. Your style. So forget about trying to swim upstream and instead, look for ways to express yourself with every action you take, and to approach things in a way that brings you joy. Even if it's something you're doing behind the scenes, it'll infuse your energy into your work, making it Unmistakably yours even if to you it seems vanilla or "mundane".
ALIGN YOUR ACTIONS
MAGNETIC MOXIE
Before you sit down to write a post, to record a video, or to do any work on your brand/business, take a beat and connect to your big why. When we lose sight of it, our egos can take over and get us distracted from the real point, therefore making it all about us. But when we connect to our heart for service, we remember that what we're doing is for others, and that helps us get out of our own way and share from the right place, not caring how our work is perceived and only caring about whether it's able to help the people we serve.
ELEVATE YOUR ENERGY
MATERIAL MAGNETISM
Forget about "competitor research". It's a slippery slope that often triggers comparisonitis rather than being of any use to your strategy. What you need to spend time with is your own blueprint. Whether it's with the help of Human Design, astrology, the Enneagram, The Gene Keys or some other system, the more you simply lean into your design, the more your onlyness factor will emerge. And then you can create a brand identity that's the outward expression of your spirit. Which is what makes your magnetism undeniable.
